Ultimately, you aren’t in control of other people’s experiences and can never be sure how someone will react.īut, if you are anything like me, you also know that keeping your feelings all bottled up inside and not communicating with the people you love is a recipe for emotional disaster. The only way to ensure that you won’t upset others when you express your feelings is to not express them. Tips to Express Your Feelings in a Way That Honors You and The Other Personįirst, I’ve got a little truth bomb for you: Having these kinds of relationships was a lifelong goal of mine and I want to share what I learned along the way. And I am often on the receiving end of unsurpassed empathy and grace. So, in an effort to truly express myself and feel more fulfilled, I’ve done a crap ton of self-acceptance work around my feelings and emotions.Īs a result, my relationships, while certainly not perfect, are the healthiest they have been my entire life and I feel more comfortable than ever to express my Truth. People have lashed out at me, been offended, and just plain unsupportive.įor much of my life, these types of reactions led me to believe that my feelings weren’t valid, that others could care less about how I feel, and that I am just too much to deal with.īut, life has shown me that trying to be someone other than who I am is the most miserable existence possible.
I’ve even had people end relationships with me because they can’t handle how easily I express my feelings. I’ve been punished, in a variety of ways, for expressing my feelings, and I’ve had people use my feelings against me more times than I can count. I’ve been ridiculed for being “too sensitive” all of my life. But, uh, these highly emotional qualities aren’t always welcomed by others. These are all qualities that make me excellent in my work. (AKA I have a very sensitive bullshit meter!) I also ask myself, and others, uncomfortable and totally life-changing questions.īeing a Truth Teller, I call ’em like I see ’em and have a real knack for knowing when the energetic and emotional intentions don’t match what is being said. I cry at the drop of a hat, laugh way too loud at “inappropriate” things, and pretty much always wear my heart on my sleeve. I can get to the heart of the matter in a flash and I make it a conscious practice to trust my emotions as the wise counsel that they are. I am very emotionally intuitive (known as clairsentience) and I can usually tell what people are REALLY feeling, what they REALLY need, and what is holding them back, even when they are trying to hide those things.
I live, breathe, and speak the Language of Emotions. To say that I am a highly sensitive and empathic person would be an understatement. On this crazy ride called life, you can pretty much guarantee that you’ll experience feelings that relate to other people. And sometimes, it is going to feel important to be able to express your feelings with those people in ways that feel good.īut, what do you do if other people feel upset by your feelings? Or worse, criticize you, shame or manipulate you, or use your feelings against you? In today’s post, I am going to give you some tips and tools to express your feelings in healthier ways.īut first, I want to tell you my own personal history with this.
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